Do you start sentences with “always” or “never” as the second word? That is what is called ‘all-or-nothing’ thinking or generalising. If you happen to think like that you are most likely rarely (or never?) happy with what you have achieved and are highly critical of yourself and others.
Is this me?
If you think in extremes, with no grey areas or middle ground, either like someone or hate them, exercise seven times a week or not at all, then you are very likely an ‘all-or-nothing’ thinker. Once you start listening you will find yourself saying words like “always”, “never” and “totally”. Example could be: “My boss never listens to me” or “I always get stuck in traffic. [Tweet “Do you find yourself saying words like “always”, “never” and “totally”? Who, me? Never!”]
So what is the problem?
If you are working in a profession where perfectionism is crucial, like for an accountant, then this kind of thinking is an advantage. If however you are not able to give yourself a break, you will most likely magnify the stressors in your life and make them seem bigger than they are. This can lead to overwhelm and stress-related illnesses such as high blood pressure etc. [Read more…] about Meta Programs – All-Or-Nothing Thinking