The real reason for communication failures is often the lack of awareness of what is really happening. If you understand what level your challenges truly are and what you are communicating about, whether it is content or structure, you are then able to deal with the real issues.
A lot of couples struggle to successfully communicate on an issue (content) because they are unaware of the way they communicate (structure). Over time, unresolved hurt from previously escalated communication attempts keep surfacing and dominating each conversation. This means that the lack of skillful communication structure impedes the resolution on a content level.[Tweet “You are speaking lots, even while you are not talking…”]
Un-resourceful ways of listening
- Finishing the others sentences
- Lack of supportive non-verbal cues
- Inability to truly listen (=active listening)
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