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51 James Fish Gill Bringing Loving Awareness To Your Pain Part 1

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James Fish Gill

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About this week’s episode

This amazing conversation with James Fish Gill from Australia comes to you in the form of a double episode. Fish, as he refers to himself, has so much wisdom to share, I already knew before we started recording that it would not fit into the usual 45 minutes of this podcast. I knew Fish from Instagram, where I became intrigued with his approach to conscious communication. Listening to some of the podcasts where he had been a guest, I’ve been so drawn to what he shared in his capacity as a coach and through his unique approach.

In episodes 51 and 52, he takes us through how he dealt with his own grief, using the approach of conscious communication with himself: first, he honestly acknowledged and validated all his thoughts, then felt into the actual emotional experience. From there, he entered the field of his yearning and the longing in his heart which he recognized and honored, even when it – in the case of his loss – could not be met. Bringing loving awareness to the whole experience, without wanting to change it, makes every component of the experience matter.

Fish says we are not usually bringing loving awareness, but we are trained to respond to pain by usually dismissing, minimizing, comparing, assigning fault, understanding, or fixing when what it actually needs is validating it.
Ok, I won’t say more but I can promise you with certainty that if you listened to one episode, you would want to listen to the other too.

About this week’s guest

James Gill (aka ‘Fish’) is a heart coach, yoga teacher, and transformational facilitator based in Australia and working internationally. He is committed to the global spread of conscious communication practices that enable all beings to experience love in every moment which appears to have gone missing.

Fish’s links:

Resources mentioned in this episode:

  • The Guest House, poem by Jelaluddin Rumi

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We Must Learn to Look at Grief, Even When We Want to Run Away by Dr Puri

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Must read article

It just seemed that the writer speaks grief and healing language with the absolute same tonality as I do. Here is what she wrote:

Can we instead move forward with grief? Can we find a way to integrate loss into life, to carry it with us? Can we feel tragedy together, without an artificial line between those who are ready to move on and those who can’t see a way out?

Dr. Sunita Puri

If you have read my article on our collective grief, The Pandemic of Grief and Loss, stating that we all have more in common than we might like to think.

Grief has been moved into the center

To some degree, I’m grateful to the pandemic for having moved ‘dealing with grief’ into the front, right, and center of people’s lives, a necessary human experience that has been and is so overlooked until we are forced to deal with it sooner or later in every human being’s life.

Many of my client’s challenges are how people are dealing with them, some of which you might be very familiar with: avoiding them by crossing the street, avoiding talking to them, giving them time alone to grieve (usually far too much), or simply by not mentioning the loved one’s name.

Has this changed since grief has moved into the center stage? I do hope so.

Article link:

We Must Learn to Look at Grief, Even When We Want to Run Away, by Dr. Sunita Puri.

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Spiritual Awakening Through Illness

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flu and other illnesses
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Everyone has had the experience of being sick in their life. Did you get the spiritual awakening and the learnings that were presented to you?

Many of you who are on the path of becoming aware know about the metaphysical causes of illnesses. There are plenty of great books on that topic, among them my favourite from Louise Hay and Lise Bourbeau, which can be an excellent starting point in understanding your dis-ease.

Let’s look at it on a practical level: Take the example of the reoccurring bouts of flu. What are the benefits and potentials for spiritual awakenings in having the flu?

  1. Prioritizing: When your body is weakened by fever and headache you only do what is really important or urgent, like cancelling appointments, calling work to let them know you are not well. You are not wasting time with or worrying about unimportant, trivial matters.
  2. Focus on Health: You become more health conscious, you are mindful of what you eat, drink and what outside influences you expose yourself to.
  3. Speaking the Truth: You might be telling people to stop talking when you’re physically, mentally or emotionally not able to take in more. How often does it happen that you are keeping your mouth shut, when you are well, because you want to be ‘nice’? When you are sick, you are being more honest with yourself and others.
  4. Looking after Self: When you are feeling low, you have to take your own needs seriously. Looking after your body becomes a matter of self-preservation.
  5. Less Ego Fixation: If you are seriously weakened by your illness you will no longer be bothered making a point. It becomes less important to ‘be right’ and more important to ‘be well’.
  6. Sticking with the Essential: When you have throat pain, for example, you are only saying what is really necessary, leaving out all the fluff. Similarly to the previous point you are less attached to being right or being heard and trust that things will sort themselves out.
  7. Allowing Help: This is a great chance for people who find it not so easy to accept help under normal circumstances. When you are ill and cannot do certain tasks, you have to learn to accept and welcome help. For the person helping you it is also much nicer to help you as they won’t hear: ‘Oh no, that’s not necessary, I can do it myself!’

So do you have to get sick to learn those lessons or can you do it while you are well?

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    Nathalie Himmelrich

    I accompany people therapeutically as a holistic counsellor and coach.

    I walk alongside people dealing with the challenges presented by life and death.

    I’m also a writer and published author of multiple grief resource books and the founder of the Grieving Parents Support Network.

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