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What You Should Know About Being Judgmental

June 9, 2014 By Nathalie Himmelrich Leave a Comment

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A good friend of mine recently posted an open letter to a community she’s part of, writing about judgment, that was expressed. This letter made me think about having a difference of opinion versus judgment and being judgmental.

So what’s the difference?

According to Wikipedia, an opinion is a judgment, viewpoint, or statement about matters commonly considered to be subjective. In comparison to a fact, an opinion is less than absolutely certain and a result of emotion or interpretation of facts.

A judgment is an evaluation of evidence to make a decision. It has also been defined as “the faculty of being able to make critical distinction and achieve a balanced viewpoint. Often, however, is it used in a critical manner.

A judgmental person is often displaying an overly critical point of view. Often it is communicated in a disapproving, disparaging or negative way, leaving not much or no room for acceptance of differences.

Judging is normal, being judgmental is not

Where comparing and judging is a normal human activity, being judgmental is often a result of unresolved emotionality and/or learnt behavior. It is not pleasant to be around an overly judgmental person and it draws forth arguments and defensiveness.

What’s in your heart?

As my friend says in her article:

“The truth is that when you judge another person, you are not defining that person at all, you just end up defining your own self as a person who likes to judge. If there is hate in your heart, you will speak hate. Just as if there is love in your heart, you will speak that love.”

What is that you want to convey? How would you like to be treated by your friends, family and peers?

Acceptance of difference

At the heart of the matter is practicing acceptance of differences. Against common misconception, you can accept someone’s different point of view without needing to understand it. We all accept things in our lives, even enjoy them, without understanding them. Most people use the light switch without understanding the ins and outs of electricity. It’s a practical luxury, which many accept and enjoy, without needing to understand it.

Unmet pain

When you are being judgmental, it is often because there is unmet emotional pain stored in your body. Ask yourself: What would happen, if I accept the other person? What would I not want to experience? What am I afraid to feel?

Often, this leads into uncovering what is underlying the need of wanting to convince others of your opinion.

Filed Under: self development/motivation Tagged With: judgement, judging, judgment, judgmental, opinion, opinionated

Self-Appreciation

March 13, 2010 By Nathalie Himmelrich Leave a Comment

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Self-Appreciation is the foundation of a healthy self-image and goes hand in hand with self-esteem and self-confidence. It starts with accepting the self and the way in which it is showing up in this life. This might not happen overnight but as a process of self-discovery. Developing self-appreciation will lead to a fuller, healthier and happier life.

Self-judgment and the judgment of others happen as the product of a consciousness developing to a certain level of self-awareness. Self-judgment diminishes self-appreciation when the individual internalizes the consequences that stem from these judgments. Therefore it is crucial to nurture self-esteem and practice self-appreciation to assure the health and well-being of the individual.

Use the following technique to allow Self-Appreciation into your life:

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Filed Under: self development/motivation Tagged With: appreciation, awakening, awareness, judgment, self-appreciation, self-confidence

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    I accompany people therapeutically as a holistic counsellor and coach.

    I walk alongside people dealing with the challenges presented by life and death.

    I’m also a writer and published author of multiple grief resource books and the founder of the Grieving Parents Support Network.

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