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Personal Development – You Are Always Making The Right Decision

July 31, 2011 By Nathalie Himmelrich Leave a Comment

train tracks
Photo by Ivan Aleksic on Unsplash

It is so easy to say ‘I should not have done that’ or ‘I made the wrong decision’. What if, in fact, you are always making the right decision at any given time? Can you accept and do you want to accept this statement? Let’s look at why this is the case.

How we make decisions

Generally speaking, we all make decisions on a daily basis. From what we are going to eat for breakfast to which way we walk or drive to work to any other little things in life, which you might not consciously be aware of. Unconsciously you are weighing up the different options and then choose the best one available. Usually, this happens in a split second and we move on to the next decision.

When decisions are hard to make

Why is it sometimes that some of us find it hard to make certain decisions? There are a few reasons: 1. The options are of comparative similar benefit, 2. You don’t want to make a decision because it would exclude another option or options or 3. You have over-thought the options, there are too many to choose from and/or you are simply overwhelmed and don’t have enough facts.

Some people I work with in my clinic have found themselves to be ‘decision-phobic’ for fear of making the wrong decision and later regretting it, or for fear of putting other people off.

Decisions happen at a certain time with a certain perspective

Any decision happens at a specific moment in time. At this time you will have a certain kind of perspective on the topic, know some facts and do not know others. Given all these ingredients you generally make the best decision available to you, with the resources – personal, physical, inner qualities, money, time etc. – you have available.

Oh no! I made the wrong decision!

You will only ever be able to utter this statement after some time has passed, you changed your perspective and/or you have more information now than you had at the time you made the decision. Once you fully acknowledge this last sentence the only thing you can say is that you might want to change your mind or that you would have chosen otherwise, would you have known then, what you know now.

This knowing releases some of the disapproval we might give ourselves for not knowing better in the past, what we were not able to know anyway. Let yourself off the hook, accept that you did the best you could then and make the best out of the situation in the now.

Filed Under: self development/motivation Tagged With: decision, making decision, right decision, time, time

Time for Coffee with a Friend?

January 10, 2010 By Nathalie Himmelrich Leave a Comment

coffee and doughnuts
Photo by Janaya Dasiuk on Unsplash

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day, are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the 2 cups of coffee.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls.

He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar.
He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full.
They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar.
Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous “yes.”

[Read more…] about Time for Coffee with a Friend?

Filed Under: inspiration/humour, self development/motivation Tagged With: motivation, perspective, time for friends

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