I work with individuals and couples, those who would prefer more personal support in dealing with grief, loss or relationship challenges. I specialise in the following areas:
- Mourning Accompaniment: Grief & loss – especially for parental bereavement and family survivors of suicide victims, but also in cases of loss of health, job, life satisfaction
- Relationship satisfaction following death of a family member
Even though there isn’t a suitable term in English, the German term ‘Trauerbegleitung’ best translates to mourning accompaniment. It describes the process of accompanying someone through their grief, walking side-by-side through this painful process.
Many traditional grief theories still aim at ‘getting back to normal’ and ‘letting go’ of the deceased. Sadly, these grief theories are based on the myths that still exist in people’s minds: you shouldn’t feel bad (for too long), grieve alone, stay strong for others, keep busy, and time will do the healing.
Grief requires time, words, closeness and support. Mourning accompaniment provides a safe space for the bereaved to retract, to let themselves be carried and supported. Within this space, inner strength will grow to find and create new purpose in life.
- Time: Once you decide to do grief work, you learn to give yourself time. Even while your friends and family members have returned to ‘daily life’, you might still require months or years to deal with your emotions.
- Words: In grief accompaniment, we search for words to express the pain. Rituals, images, creativity – and our conversation about those can help find ways to express and deal with the emotions.
- Closeness & support: Closeness to others who have experienced similar situations, whether that is in a one-on-one or group situation can significantly alleviate the sense of being alone. Where friends and family members might fail to provide the understanding needed, grief accompaniment will.
My work with you
In my work with clients, I follow a different approach: Helping you navigate your life after the loss by dealing with the pain of the loss, at the same time creating an inner relationship with the person who is no longer alive.
This is done through a systemic approach: A systemic view doesn’t just take into account the individual bereaved person but the social support system surrounding him or her.
Grief work is creative relationship work with the ultimate aim of
The aim of grief work
- Accepting grief and pain: Instead of trying/pretending to be ok or strong, accepting what is, both within yourself, as well as in response to others. Moving from being at grief’s mercy towards actively dealing with grief.
- Relationship with the intense emotions: Working towards seeing the emotions as helpful allies and necessary parts in the healing process.
- Death and finding a way to relate to the no longer physically present person: Coming to acceptance of the reality of death and finding ways to live a healthy ongoing emotional relationship with the dead person, one that supports integration into life.
How I will work
My background is broad, including different approaches, therapeutical styles and techniques. I use whatever is most helpful to the situation and the client, keeping a holistic perspective.
The best way to find out if we can work together and if my style fits with your needs is by setting up a time for a free first session. Request your session by sending me an email, describing your situation.
I work with you for 60 or 90 minutes, either via Skype, Zoom or FaceTime. For those who are located in the vicinity of Zurich and prefer a personal meeting, I meet you in a public place of our mutual agreement.
What People Say
Thank you so much for the wonderful book ‘May We All Heal: Playbook for Creative Healing After Loss’. I am so grateful for the work you do and the messages you send out for bereaved parents. I have recently gained a lot of strength within my grief and this is very much down to finding yourself and the creative bereaved community on Instagram. Sending you much love and heartfelt gratitude.– Jo, San Diego