This week on Thursday it will be 11 years since my mother died from suicide following years of battling with depression.
Grief still works through me. This year, I am approaching the anniversary very consciously, starting with writing this today.
How do I approach death anniversaries?
I let myself sit with feelings as they come and go, choose to look at memories and photos in honour of her, become teary looking at certain ones, plan to visit the cemetery and give myself time for remembrance, and also time off when needed.
I make sure I create space to allow what I might or might not expect: emotional up and downs, lack of motivation to do anything… whatever it might be this time.
In different years in the past, I purposely chose something to make it a meaningful day, such as: donating my books to the hospital, creating a circle of people who know her and sharing memories, and planting flowers, just to name a few. Last year I bought 10 red roses and brought them to my mother’s grave. Read more about the years prior here…
🙋🏻♀️ How about you? What is the best way for your to deal with your loved one’s death anniversary?
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