Getting hooked into a drama happens quickly, especially in close relationships. The following article will help you understand the different roles played and how to step out of the cycle altogether. What Drama? Stephen Karpman has first described the drama triangle in an article in 1968. The model shows the three positions people have often […]
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Conflict in a relationship is often the pivotal point that leads to unhappiness and dissatisfaction of the relationship. Let’s have a look at conflict from a different point of view to turn it into an opportunity to grow and learn instead of an ‘I win – you loose’ scenario. Relationship purpose The ultimate purpose of
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One of the key habits that successful people have is planning. It is often what unsuccessful people refuse to do. In specific, they develop written plans, which has to do with working smart rather than working hard. Why plan? According to time management experts, every hour spent developing a written plan saves anywhere from two
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1. Happy relationship = happy self It is the other way around: Your relationship life is a reflection of your personal emotional state. Your relationship won’t make you happy unless you are. 2. Next time it will be better If you carry the bricks from your past relationship you will end up building the same
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The following model is used to understand the stages we go through while learning. It is also known as the four stages of competence, or the “conscious competence” learning model. Depending on what source of information you are looking at, it can either be traced back to Abraham Maslow or Thomas Gordon’ Training. This model
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There is often confusion about the kinds of relationship my clients are in, so let me define them here in this article. Any of these can also be stages you go through in your relationship life. Truly compatible: Depending on your definition of the ‘perfect relationship’ this is it. There is a high degree of
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Do you start sentences with “always” or “never” as the second word? That is what is called ‘all-or-nothing’ thinking or generalising. If you happen to think like that you are most likely rarely (or never?) happy with what you have achieved and are highly critical of yourself and others. Is this me? If you think
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Meta Programs are processes that operate at a metal level, which influence other lower mental levels (meta meaning ‘above’). They help you understand how you (and others) make sense of the world, and how you shape your values, beliefs and behaviours. The term meta-programs comes from the world of NLP and is widely used in
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Who does not feel overwhelmed at times? I certainly do, more often than I would like to. Today, I have achieved a higher level of insight on the recipe that leads to a number of my overwhelming moments, which I would like to share with you. Have a think about what aspects of this recipe
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Knowing whether you are a matcher or a mismatcher or neither can make life much easier. These terms are used in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) as a person’s ‘Meta-Program’ to describe a person’s habitual thinking patterns. Let’s find out more. What is a mismatcher? In conversations, for example, a mismatcher is a person who will automatically
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