gender/sexuality

Back by Popular Demand: Love Language Part 5 – Physical Touch

December 6, 2014 By Nathalie Himmelrich Leave a Comment

Love Language Part 5 – Physical Touch

We have long known that physical touch is a way of communicating emotional love. Research projects in the area of child development have made that conclusion: Babies who are held, hugged and kissed develop a healthier emotional life than those who are left for long periods of time without physical contact.

Holding hands, kissing, embracing, and sexual intercourse are all ways of communicating emotional love to one’s spouse.

The touch of love may take many forms. Since touch receptors are located throughout the body, lovingly touching your spouse almost anywhere can be an expression of love. That does not mean that all touches are created equal.[Tweet “Do you know how your partner likes to be touched?”]

Within every language, there are many dialects. Here below you will find just a few but in the end, you need to understand your spouse’s dialect.

Sexual intercourse
Touching
Caressing
Cuddling
Holding

Your best instructor is your spouse, of course. Don’t make the mistake of believing that the touch that brings pleasure to you also bring pleasure to her.

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6 Steps To Take When In Relationship Conflict – Relationship Wisdom

February 19, 2014 By Nathalie Himmelrich Leave a Comment

man and women on bed kissing — win-win in conflict

Conflict in relationship is often the pivotal point that leads to unhappiness and dissatisfaction of the relationship. Let’s have a look at conflict from a different point of view to turn it into opportunity to grow and learn instead of an “I win – you loose” scenario.

Relationship purpose

The ultimate purpose of every relationship, whether it is an intimate one or not, is to enable both of you to grow personally and interpersonally. Whenever we enter into a relationship there is this meeting place of two human beings finding out something new about themselves and each other. It really is the evolution of your own consciousness as well as the consciousness of interaction at large.

Avoiding conflict

Conflict is often seen as the opposite of intimacy. The reality of “me-against-you conflict” is that it reduces the feeling of safety, ability and willingness to be vulnerable. Avoiding conflict therefore is what seems like the most logical solution.[Tweet “What if conflict was not the opposite of intimacy? “] [Read more…] about 6 Steps To Take When In Relationship Conflict – Relationship Wisdom

13 Myths About Relationship Satisfaction

February 5, 2014 By Nathalie Himmelrich Leave a Comment

man and woman kissing — What satisfies you in relationship?

1. Happy relationship = happy self

It is the other way around: Your relationship life is a reflection of your personal emotional state. Your relationship won’t make you happy unless you are.

2. Next time it will be better

If you carry the bricks from your past relationship you will end up building the same house. A new relationship will only be as good as where you are at in yourself.

3. Good sex = satisfaction
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Relationship Wisdom – 15 Types Of Relationship: Which One Do You Have?

January 22, 2014 By Nathalie Himmelrich Leave a Comment

two hands touching intimately — Which one is your relationship?

There is often confusion about the kinds of relationship my clients are in, so let me define them here in this article. Any of these can also be stages you go through in your relationship life.

Truly compatible:

Depending on your definition of the ‘perfect relationship’ this is it. There is a high degree of mutual understanding and acceptance of who and how you are. You are in love and people around you admire you for your connection.

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Relationship Wisdom – My Wife Does Not Want To Have Sex

October 16, 2013 By Nathalie Himmelrich Leave a Comment

Lack of sexual desire is a common relationship challenge that couples face. It does not always have to be the female partner who has the reduced sex drive. Couples facing this issue however do seldom have an erectile dysfunction. This article will look a bit deeper into these different issues.

Clarification of different terms

Erectile dysfunction or impotence is the term used when a man is not able to maintain or develop an erection of the penis during sexual intercourse. This can occur as a physical impotence or psychological impotence.
Libido, also referred to as sex drive, is a person’s (male and female) desire for sexual activities such as intercourse. [Read more…] about Relationship Wisdom – My Wife Does Not Want To Have Sex

Relationship Wisdom – What Stops You From Having Sex With Your Partner?

July 17, 2011 By Nathalie Himmelrich Leave a Comment

Romantic-Couple-in-Bed — What is ruling your sex life?

Reading the statistics about how often a couple has sex makes some wonder: ‘What’s wrong with me?’ The fact is that these numbers are not necessarily representative of the whole population. Still, the question remains: What stops you from having sex with your partner?

We used to have sex all the time!

We can find a multitude of reasons why the frequency of intimacy and sexual intercourse in specific usually decreases over the course of a relationship. First of all, it depends on the libido of the people involved, so keep that in mind while continuing to read this article. One reason that applies to all of us is that at the beginning of a relationship, while a couple is filled with ‘honeymoon hormones’ the drive to have sex is the highest. Given that this state lasts anywhere from six to 18 months and then decreases, it makes sense that so does the desire. This reason is based in biology and it is said that it is linked to the average time it takes to procreate and conceive a baby.[Tweet “We used to make love all the time…”]

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