self development/motivation

Who Is Your Spiritual Authority?

August 27, 2014 By Nathalie Himmelrich Leave a Comment

Going through life we learn from parents, teachers, lecturers, educators, coaches, trainers, workshop leaders, religious leaders, partners, and children. Spiritual seekers often learn from gurus. But who is your spiritual authority? Who tells you what’s right and what’s wrong? What to believe and from whom? When to apply what you have learnt and why?

The good, the bad and the useless

As a child, we learn and believe our parents. As pupils, we learn from our teachers. Sadly, not all the teaching we receive is beneficial. When the teaching is received in the formative years of a child, it is often taken on before they gain the ability to decipher between good and bad. As we grow older, we hopefully become more and more equipped to differentiate between what of the learning and beliefs we want to believe and what we need to throw over board. [Tweet “Who decides what you believe?”]

Experience and perception

If you were to ask me what I believe after all that I’ve been through, [Read more…] about Who Is Your Spiritual Authority?

Should I Tell Him?

August 9, 2014 By Nathalie Himmelrich Leave a Comment

Tell or don't tell? — Tell or don’t tell?

Entering into a new relationship means starting at the beginning and sharing your story with each other. The older you get and the more experiences you have collected, the more potential for aspects of your past that seems unworthy of sharing. Maybe some of your experiences make you feel guilty, ashamed or even disgusted with yourself. So, should you tell your new partner the whole truth or not?

Is it relevant right now?

Recently, a client of mine tormented herself about a past secret affair and whether or not she should tell her new partner, given the new man knew the man from the affair. What I asked her first is: “Is this part of your past relevant to you now and how?”

In regards to an affair, ask yourself whether you still have feelings for the other person, which might impede in your new forming relationship.

Ask yourself: Does my past affair emotionally stand in the way of forming this new relationship? [Tweet “When to tell the truth?”] [Read more…] about Should I Tell Him?

What You Don’t Want In a Relationship

July 23, 2014 By Nathalie Himmelrich Leave a Comment

Sorry, I can't go for that! — Sorry, I can’t go for that!

This week I heard the song “I can’t go for that” by Rumer and Daryl Hall. It made me ponder the question of relationship boundaries. Have you thought about where your boundaries in relationship are lately? Ponder with me…

The beginning

We usually start out with a relationship being in ‘head-over-heels’ love for one another where we are tempted to full heartedly believe in the romantic notion of “I’ll do anything for you”. Even though that is completely normal at the very beginning of a relationship, it is not normal, when you progress into every day life. [Tweet “Sorry, that’s out of relationship bounds!”]

The reality

When we relate with our partner past the honeymoon stage we usually come back to our more realistic self, meeting the more realistic self of the partner. That’s where, sometimes, the disillusionment sets in and some relationships fall apart.

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9 Steps On How To Get Things Done

July 9, 2014 By Nathalie Himmelrich Leave a Comment

quoteonbackground — Get organized and STAY calm

Have you ever experienced that some of your tasks never seem to get done, even though they might be important and some even urgent? It is because they trigger some aversion, fear, worry, insecurity or boredom. Here is how you can get them done.

1. Make a list

Put aside 20 minutes and a take a fresh notebook. Start by making a list of all those things that you want to get done. This will create some free mental space and release some of the worries around forgetting them or the repercussions of not completing them.

2. Sort your list

Go through your list and sort your items in four categories:
a) urgent and important,
b) urgent but not important,
c) important but not urgent,
d) neither urgent not important [Tweet “Planning saves you 40 times the time for execution”]

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The Secret Is In the Word – Choose Them Wisely

June 23, 2014 By Nathalie Himmelrich Leave a Comment

As adults, we create meaning by the words we put onto experiences. “This was the worst day of my life” or “at least you have other children” are just examples of what we either say to ourselves, to others, either out loud or in our thoughts. The more we think something, the more we believe it, the more it affects us emotionally, the more it creates our emotional, physical and mental state.

Listen to yourself

Once you start to listen to yourself and become sensitized to the verbal flow, you start to wonder whether what you hear is actually what you want to listen to. “This won’t get any better” and “I’m such a loser” often go unnoticed as part of our mind chatter.

Listen to others

When however we hear others speak to us in less than favorable terms, we notice it often more quickly and feel it stronger. Derogatory statement hurt. Comments delivered without grace even though they are meant well, leave their painful scar. When others continuously speak to us in a way that leaves us feeling unsatisfied, we question or leave the relationship.[Tweet “If you decide to change, you only need to negotiate with yourself”] [Read more…] about The Secret Is In the Word – Choose Them Wisely

What You Should Know About Being Judgmental

June 9, 2014 By Nathalie Himmelrich Leave a Comment

A good friend of mine recently posted an open letter to a community she’s part of, writing about judgment, which was expressed. This letter made me think about having a difference of opinion versus judgment and being judgmental.

So what’s the difference?

According to Wikipedia, an opinion is a judgment, viewpoint, or statement about matters commonly considered to be subjective. In comparison to a fact, an opinion is less than absolutely certain and a result of emotion or interpretation of facts.

A judgment is an evaluation of evidence to make a decision. It has also been defined as “the faculty of being able to make critical distinction and achieve a balanced viewpoint. Often, however, is it used in a critical manner.

A judgmental person is often displaying an overly critical point of view. Often it is communicated in a disapproving, disparaging or negative way, leaving not much or no room for acceptance of differences.[Tweet ” What are you really saying about yourself?”] [Read more…] about What You Should Know About Being Judgmental