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52 James Fish Gill Bringing Loving Awareness To Your Pain Part 2

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James Fish Gill

➡️ If you haven’t listened to Part 1 – head back here first.

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About this week’s episode

This amazing conversation with James Fish Gill from Australia comes to you in the form of a double episode. Fish, as he refers to himself, has so much wisdom to share, I already knew before we started recording that it would not fit into the usual 45 minutes of this podcast. I knew Fish from Instagram, where I became intrigued with his approach to conscious communication. Listening to some of the podcasts where he had been a guest, I’ve been so drawn to what he shared in his capacity as a coach and through his unique approach.

In episodes 51 and 52, he takes us through how he dealt with his own grief, using the approach of conscious communication with himself: first, he honestly acknowledged and validated all his thoughts, then felt into the actual emotional experience. From there, he entered the field of his yearning and the longing in his heart which he recognized and honored, even when it – in the case of his loss – could not be met. Bringing loving awareness to the whole experience, without wanting to change it, makes every component of the experience matter.

Fish says we are not usually bringing loving awareness, but we are trained to respond to pain by usually dismissing, minimizing, comparing, assigning fault, understanding, or fixing when what it actually needs is validating it.
Ok, I won’t say more but I can promise you with certainty that if you listened to one episode, you would want to listen to the other too.

About this week’s guest

James Gill (aka ‘Fish’) is a heart coach, yoga teacher, and transformational facilitator based in Australia and working internationally. He is committed to the global spread of conscious communication practices that enable all beings to experience love in every moment which appears to have gone missing.

Fish’s links:

Resources mentioned in this episode:

  • The Guest House, poem by Jelaluddin Rumi

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51 James Fish Gill Bringing Loving Awareness To Your Pain Part 1

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James Fish Gill

HOW TO DEAL WITH GRIEF AND TRAUMA is completely self-funded, produced, and edited by me, Nathalie Himmelrich.
Consider making a small donation to support the Podcast: bit.ly/SupportGTPodcast. Thank you! 

For more information, please visit Nathalie’s website, join the podcast’s Instagram page, and subscribe to the newsletter to receive updates on future episodes here.

About this week’s episode

This amazing conversation with James Fish Gill from Australia comes to you in the form of a double episode. Fish, as he refers to himself, has so much wisdom to share, I already knew before we started recording that it would not fit into the usual 45 minutes of this podcast. I knew Fish from Instagram, where I became intrigued with his approach to conscious communication. Listening to some of the podcasts where he had been a guest, I’ve been so drawn to what he shared in his capacity as a coach and through his unique approach.

In episodes 51 and 52, he takes us through how he dealt with his own grief, using the approach of conscious communication with himself: first, he honestly acknowledged and validated all his thoughts, then felt into the actual emotional experience. From there, he entered the field of his yearning and the longing in his heart which he recognized and honored, even when it – in the case of his loss – could not be met. Bringing loving awareness to the whole experience, without wanting to change it, makes every component of the experience matter.

➡️ If you want to continue listening to Part 2 – head over here after this one.

Fish says we are not usually bringing loving awareness, but we are trained to respond to pain by usually dismissing, minimizing, comparing, assigning fault, understanding, or fixing when what it actually needs is validating it.
Ok, I won’t say more but I can promise you with certainty that if you listened to one episode, you would want to listen to the other too.

About this week’s guest

James Gill (aka ‘Fish’) is a heart coach, yoga teacher, and transformational facilitator based in Australia and working internationally. He is committed to the global spread of conscious communication practices that enable all beings to experience love in every moment which appears to have gone missing.

Fish’s links:

Resources mentioned in this episode:

  • The Guest House, poem by Jelaluddin Rumi

Thank you for listening!

HOW TO DEAL WITH GRIEF AND TRAUMA is produced and edited by me, Nathalie Himmelrich.

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48 Gina Moffa on Mother Loss, Divorce, and Acknowledging Loss Upon Loss

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Gina Moffa

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About this week’s episode

When I spoke with Gina, I was surprised at how moved I was by the depth of our conversation even though we just met for the first time. Gina has not only experienced multiple losses herself, but she is also working as a therapist with clients dealing with loss. Just last week she published her first book, a practical guide giving tools and resources helping people while they are grieving.       

About this week’s guest 

Gina Moffa is a licensed psychotherapist, mental health educator, and media consultant in New York City. In practice for nearly two decades, she has helped thousands of people seeking treatment for trauma, and grief, as well as challenging life experiences and transitions. She received her master’s degree in social work with a specialty in trauma from New York University. August 22nd, 2023, her book, Moving On Doesn’t Mean Letting Go: A Modern Guide to Navigating Loss, will be on bookshelves around the world.

Gina’s links:

Resources mentioned in this episode

Moving On Doesn’t Mean Letting Go: A Modern Guide to Navigating Loss

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Andrew Dupy on Dealing With Early Childhood Trauma, Losses, Divorce, and PTSD | Episode 43

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As you know, I thrive to have more male guests on the Podcast and I’m glad that Andrew offered to speak from his personal experience of dealing with grief and trauma in many different situations. He speaks about divorce, both the divorce of his parents as well as his own marriage, the death of both of his parents, and the loss of most of his family and friends as a result of that. 

As you will hear in today’s episode, having experienced quite significant early childhood trauma, Andrew knows his boundaries and is clear on what he can talk about and where he prefers not to go deeper, which I’m guessing many of you listeners can relate to. Having clear boundaries is so important, especially dealing with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and the aftermath of a chronically dysregulated nervous system.  

Find out more by listening to today’s episode. 

About this week’s guest 

Andrew Dupy is the CSO for Leaders Press with a demonstrated history working in the publishing industry and more than 15 years of developing extensive customer, sales, support, management, and executive experience.
Andrew has consistently fostered a productive and enriching work environment to upskill employees and grow business and leverages his knowledge, bearing, and charisma to generate return business by creating a community of long-term client relationships. 
Andrew became estranged from his biological father at an early age after the divorce of his parents due to the parents’ abusive relationship, which also led to the estrangement of other members of their extended family. As a young adult, his mother died from cancer and many years later Andrew also lost his stepdad from cancer. Just a few years after that, his own marriage ended in divorce.  

Andrew’s links: LinkedIn | Leader’s Press article 

Topics discussed in this episode

  • Divorce from his parents, estranged biological father
  • Death of both of his parents from cancer
  • Divorce leads to the loss of friends and support network
  • PTSD from early childhood trauma (abusive family relationship) and present-day reactions
  • Effects of PTSD on the nervous system
  • Sudden death versus long-drawn-out illness

Resources mentioned in this episode

Thank you for listening!

HOW TO DEAL WITH GRIEF AND TRAUMA is produced and edited by me, Nathalie Himmelrich.

Nathalie with Rachelle Spencer on Being Proud on Who You’ve Become | Episode 23

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Rachelle Spencer

Today on the podcast I have the honour to dive deep into loss and trauma with Rachelle Spencer, who I’ve known since 2016. She has experienced multiple miscarriages and an abusive, toxic relationship. Rachelle is proud of who she has become not because but despite of her grief and trauma.

Rachelle found the support of a therapist instrumental in her healing and in making healthy decisions:

I know you mentioned therapist, but that was hugely instrumental for me to have a safe place, a sounding board. I don’t want to underestimate how big that was because I was figuring things out and learning to make decisions on my own. There was one person that completely supported whatever decision I made and trusted me to figure it out.

Rachelle Spencer

About this week’s guest

Rachelle Spencer is an entrepreneur and mom in Baltimore, Maryland (USA). She started her handmade jewellery business after she lost 4 children to early miscarriage. She now has a son, daughter, and another little one on the way. She spends most of her time doing photography, reading children’s books, or trying her hand out at a new creative outlet.

Rachelle’s links:

Website: www.rachelle-isms.com

Instagram: @rachelle. isms

Topics discussed in this episode

  • Multiple miscarriages
  • Toxic relationship leading to divorce
  • Educating children, helping them understand how to deal with emotions, consent, trauma etc
  • Co-parenting and parenting as a blended family
  • The value of therapeutic support
  • Secondary losses

Resources mentioned in this episode

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Nathalie with Simone Surgeoner on Loss of Significant Men | Episode 14

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Simone Surgeoner
Simone Surgeoner

Today Simone and I talk about losing the most significant men in her life. She dealt with the loss of her life partner through cancer, the sudden death of her father, and the dissolution of two marriages. After all these losses she investigated the masculine, and she found an appreciation for the male aspect in her life and in herself.  

She describes the experience of grief’s intensity in the following way:

The pain and intensity of it has not lessened in those moments. Yes, there are fewer and further between, but … it’s okay now because I know that it comes up like a huge wave and it feels so overwhelming in the moment, but I know that it’s going to leave now so it doesn’t topple me over. But I’m still always quite… It’s almost like impressed with that level of grief does not abate when it comes up.

Simone Surgeoner

About this week’s guest

Simone Surgeoner is a therapist and mentor who has helped thousands of people find their own authentic path in life.  She enjoys nothing more than exploring the depths of what it means to be human. Using herself as her own guinea pig, Simone demonstrates beingness as arising from integrity with one’s essence. Helping people find their inner truth, through their own direct experience, is the core of Simone’s work. 

Simone’s website: www.saksana.com.au 

Topics discussed in this episode

  • Loss of life partner
  • Loss of her father
  • Loss of relationships, divorce
  • Loss of a lifestyle, home, relationships, values, dreams, identity, religion
  • Supporting children who lost their father
  • Child’s experience of grief
  • Giving herself a full year of grief

Resources mentioned in this episode

Links

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Thanks for listening to HOW TO DEAL WITH GRIEF AND TRAUMA. If you’d like to be updated on future episodes, please subscribe to my newsletter on Nathalie Himmelrich.com

If you need grief support, please contact me for a FREE 30 min discovery session.

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    I walk alongside people dealing with the challenges presented by life and death.

    I’m also a writer and published author of multiple grief resource books and the founder of the Grieving Parents Support Network.

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