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Birth and Death Anniversaries Are Hard

Death anniversaries are the hardest. Annonymous client Death anniversaries are hard She uttered the sentence in response to my public sharing on Instagram regarding the fact that it is 10 years since my girls were born and A’Mya died: It also means that my grief journey with A’Mya is turning 10 years old. 10 years […]

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October – Pregnancy And Infant Loss Awareness Month

October is International SIDS, Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month (and also Breast Cancer Awareness Month). This article will shine a light on the history and meaning for our community (specifically the Grieving Parents Community), and provide a resource of events and projects you can take part in, if you wish, to make this month meaningful for

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The Relationship Between Trauma & Grief

Many of the people I have been working with have shown signs of Trauma & Grief intertwined. So, you might wonder, what is the difference and how do I know whether I or someone else is experience grief, trauma, or both? Defining experiences Normal Grief, as defined by MedicineNet, is: The normal process of reacting

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Best Questions to ask – Supporting Questions

“The answers you get depend on the questions you ask.” ― Thomas S. Kuhn, Author of the book The Structure of Scientific Revolutions Supporting yourself or someone else through the throws of grief and trauma really depends on the conversations that are happening, inside and outside. It is about the thoughts we have in our minds

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A Letter To The Friend Of A ‘New Normal’ Grieving Mother

Dear Friend, It’s been awhile since I’ve contacted you. I was busy. Busy surviving. Busy grieving. I have been more focused on my journey and me than anyone else’s. I had to. For my own and my family’s sake. Otherwise I might no longer be around. My child has died and even if/though this is

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Why Grievers Are Often Misunderstood

Recently, in one week 80% of my arrangements to meet up with friends got cancelled. Not by me. I was utterly disappointed. Maybe I’m a highly sensitive person, or perhaps I simply get easily disappointed. So when I inquired into one specific cancellation, which happened to be with another bereaved mother, she said: “Since the

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Accept The Unique Fingerprint Of Grief And Loss

Grief is unique Your grief is as unique as your fingerprint. No two fingerprints are the same. Yes, they are both from a ‘finger’, made out of the unique pattern of whorls and lines on the fingertips but that’s as far as it goes in regards to similarities. They are more different than they are same but

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