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6 Steps To Take When In Relationship Conflict – Relationship Wisdom

February 19, 2014 By Nathalie Himmelrich Leave a Comment

man and women on bed kissing
win-win in conflict

Conflict in relationship is often the pivotal point that leads to unhappiness and dissatisfaction of the relationship. Let’s have a look at conflict from a different point of view to turn it into opportunity to grow and learn instead of an “I win – you loose” scenario.

Relationship purpose

The ultimate purpose of every relationship, whether it is an intimate one or not, is to enable both of you to grow personally and interpersonally. Whenever we enter into a relationship there is this meeting place of two human beings finding out something new about themselves and each other. It really is the evolution of your own consciousness as well as the consciousness of interaction at large.

Avoiding conflict

Conflict is often seen as the opposite of intimacy. The reality of “me-against-you conflict” is that it reduces the feeling of safety, ability and willingness to be vulnerable. Avoiding conflict therefore is what seems like the most logical solution.[Tweet “What if conflict was not the opposite of intimacy? “] [Read more…] about 6 Steps To Take When In Relationship Conflict – Relationship Wisdom

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Relationship Wisdom – Stonewalling Versus Criticising

March 20, 2013 By Nathalie Himmelrich 1 Comment

The critic and the stonewaller
The critic and the stonewaller

In an intimate relationship there are common dynamics of interactions. One of them I deal with in couple clients is the stonewalling versus criticising dynamic. This dynamic is one that can become entrenched in a couple’s engagement with each other and lead to severe dissatisfaction with the relationship.

What relationship research shows

Relationship expert Dr John Gottman, who researched couples for the past 40 years, has coined the term of the ‘Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse in Relationships’, which lead to marital disaster. Two of the four steps are criticism and stonewalling. According to his research 85% of men are [Read more…] about Relationship Wisdom – Stonewalling Versus Criticising

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