Nathalie Himmelrich

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Why Your Are Not Successful in Communicating With Your Partner – Issues of Content

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The real reason for communication failures is often the lack of awareness of what is really happening. If you understand what level your challenges truly are and what you are communicating about, whether it is content or structure, you are then able to deal with the real issues. This article will look at the issues of content.

Content issues:

  • Discussing more than one topic
  • Referencing past issues
  • Changing the topic
  • Assumptions and unspoken expectations
  • Consciously hiding important information
  • Adding different seemingly similar situations or topics

Stay with one topic!

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Why You Are Not Successful in Communicating With Your Partner

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Why You Are Not Successful in Communicating With Your Partner

The real reason for communication failures is often the lack of awareness of what is really happening. If you understand what level your challenges truly are and what you are communicating about, whether it is content or structure, you are then able to deal with the real issues.

A lot of couples struggle to successfully communicate on an issue (content) because they are unaware of the way they communicate (structure). Over time, unresolved hurt from previously escalated communication attempts to keep surfacing and dominating each conversation. This means that the lack of skilful communication structure impedes the resolution on a content level.

You are speaking lots, even while you are not talking…

Structural issue:

Un-resourceful ways of listening

  • Finishing the other’s sentences
  • Lack of supportive non-verbal cues
  • Inability to truly listen (=active listening)

Un-resourceful ways of talking

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Relationship Wisdom – 10 Communication Keys

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Have you got the right key?
Have you got the right key?

In relationship communication we fall into the traps of ‘heard that before’ and ‘I know what he or she is going to say’. We often listen more to our own mind chatter than to the conversation that is going on in real life. We have failed to attend to our own needs and are therefore unable to be truly there for the most important person in our lives: our self. In response to which we can therefore not be there for the second most important person – our partner.

Key number 1:
In relationship communication make sure to pay more attention to the HOW and WHY of what you are saying than to WHAT you are actually saying.

Key number 2:
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