Even though the sea of my grief is calm, I had to learn to live with the gusts of wind that come from the outside. Through her perspective I learn about a delayed form of grief, a yearning for her sister, a consciousness which only started to dawn around her 4th birthday.
The loss of a child is without any doubt one of the most challenging experiences I have gone through in my life both personally and in my relationship. The most important aspect I have found through my survey of more than a hundred people and through interviewing parents one-on-one are: Understanding different ways of grieving
With another Mother’s Day is just around the corner I have been invited to ponder the meaning and definition of Mother. The definition of a mother There is a distinct difference between mother as a noun, versus the action of mothering in the form of a verb. Reading the definition of a mother it says
Sitting across from my husband and our daughter, while he was reading a bedtime story to her, I was reminded that my dad was not available to me in this way when I was a child. I distinctly remember a sentence he uttered when I was nineteen: “Your mother was responsible for the love in
Knowing whether you are a matcher or a mismatcher or neither can make life much easier. These terms are used in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) as a person’s ‘Meta-Program’ to describe a person’s habitual thinking patterns. Let’s find out more. What is a mismatcher? In conversations, for example, a mismatcher is a person who will automatically
My husband, my daughter and I are currently sharing living space with my father and sometimes his new partner. Today after breakfast my father said to his partner: “I will do it!”, pointing at the dishes on the table, as she was rushing to get ready. As he carried out the plates into the kitchen,
Being in a relationship where two people are from the same culture and country is already a challenge – imagine those couples that are from different cultures and countries! I am in one of those relationships. Multicultural relationships versus multinational relationships Multicultural relationships, as the name says, are when two people from different cultures meet,
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Sometimes it is just that knowing something additional, even if it is a seemingly little thing, can alter a relationship pattern that makes a big difference. The following article will hopefully provide you with one of those meaningful pieces of wisdom in terms of how different people perceive the world. Literal and inferential This is
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“You will in time understand the complexity of my time here on earth…” were my mother’s words. Just this morning I had an epiphany in regards to my mother’s choices in life. I was contemplating the ways in which she said things that she wanted us to do differently, her stoic responses, and her sometimes
Today I stood in the garage with my Dad going through the remnants of my parents life. They have been married and together for 54 years from when they were 17 years old. My Dad tears up as he watches my Mum’s picture in what we call ‘Mum’s room’. In every little thing stored in their garage there is history, stories about all those moments they shared.
