What is the right kind of grief support and how can I find it? This is the question that each and every one of you reading this will have asked yourself. Where to find support? I did too when I was freshly bereaved. Luckily I had a wonderful General Practitioner who referred me to a […]
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Spiders, rats, mice, and snakes are just some of the common animals people are afraid of. But what if the fear gets in the way of life? Phobia versus fear Phobia is a response to something that is not a threat. This is why phobias are sometimes called irrational fears. The response is so intense
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You and I are not as different as it might seem… I will never forget my father’s first words on January 19th, 2012 as I finally reached him: ‘You have got to be strong now.’ I knew what he was going to say next and I didn’t want to hear it. I didn’t want it
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Why is it important to share your grief story? So let me be clear: you don’t need to share your story, but if you do, you have the choice over how much you share and with whom. I have found working with clients time and time again that there was healing power in talking about
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Anniversaries, as you know, have a way of being remembered in the body way before they get consciously registered in the mind. It is as if our body remembers first. And, most important of all, EVERY BODY remembers differently because every body IS different. Is there a purpose in grieving 10 years later? … I
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Regulated Human beings have a nervous system. This nervous system comes into play on a daily basis. When a nervous system is regulated, blood flows naturally and effortlessly, moves into the higher-order part of our brain. In a regulated state, we have access to our social engagement function, creativity, higher-order problem solving, and complex perspective-taking
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Many of the people I have been working with have shown signs of Trauma & Grief intertwined. So, you might wonder, what is the difference and how do I know whether I or someone else is experience grief, trauma, or both? Defining experiences Normal Grief, as defined by MedicineNet, is: The normal process of reacting
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“The answers you get depend on the questions you ask.” ― Thomas S. Kuhn, Author of the book The Structure of Scientific Revolutions Supporting yourself or someone else through the throws of grief and trauma really depends on the conversations that are happening, inside and outside. It is about the thoughts we have in our minds
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“Time does NOT heal all wounds”, especially not the pain of grief. It does however give perspective because looking back, I can see the gems of wisdom, understanding, and the practice of letting go I have gathered along the way.
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This article was originally published in the Erlenbacher Dorfbott, May 2017 I walk along Bahnhofstraße, past the parish hall, and reach the Erlenbach church. Although I am not religious, I am sometimes drawn there. It is a place of retreat, a place of silence and reflection. I walk through the gate, along with the old
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