With a pain in my stomach, I write to you today. This week I received an email from one of my subscribers that really hurt. She wrote: I wish ppl would stop trying to make money off us. If you’ve known this kind of tragedy (losing your only child) you know there are setbacks, depression,
I daydream about … 💫 who they would have become ✨ Last night I went to Ananda Mae’s parents’ evening at the school. Every parent had to introduce their child given it was a new formation of kids. As I heard the other parents describe their child, mentioning their siblings, I went off daydreaming about
Anniversaries, as you know, have a way of being remembered in the body way before they get consciously registered in the mind. It is as if our body remembers first. And, most important of all, EVERY BODY remembers differently because every body IS different. Is there a purpose in grieving 10 years later? … I
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Regulated Human beings have a nervous system. This nervous system comes into play on a daily basis. When a nervous system is regulated, blood flows naturally and effortlessly, moves into the higher-order part of our brain. In a regulated state, we have access to our social engagement function, creativity, higher-order problem solving, and complex perspective-taking
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Death anniversaries are the hardest. Annonymous client Death anniversaries are hard She uttered the sentence in response to my public sharing on Instagram regarding the fact that it is 10 years since my girls were born and A’Mya died: It also means that my grief journey with A’Mya is turning 10 years old. 10 years
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October is International SIDS, Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month (and also Breast Cancer Awareness Month). This article will shine a light on the history and meaning for our community (specifically the Grieving Parents Community), and provide a resource of events and projects you can take part in, if you wish, to make this month meaningful for
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Many of the people I have been working with have shown signs of Trauma & Grief intertwined. So, you might wonder, what is the difference and how do I know whether I or someone else is experience grief, trauma, or both? Defining experiences Normal Grief, as defined by MedicineNet, is: The normal process of reacting
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“The answers you get depend on the questions you ask.” ― Thomas S. Kuhn, Author of the book The Structure of Scientific Revolutions Supporting yourself or someone else through the throws of grief and trauma really depends on the conversations that are happening, inside and outside. It is about the thoughts we have in our minds
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“Time does NOT heal all wounds”, especially not the pain of grief. It does however give perspective because looking back, I can see the gems of wisdom, understanding, and the practice of letting go I have gathered along the way.
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What is best to say to someone after a loss? In the book Grieving Parents: Surviving Loss as a Couple, in Chapter 12 for the supporters of the Grieving Parent, I suggest the three simplest things to say to a bereaved parent, among a whole list of other do’s and don’ts: I am sorry for your
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